Sami Walton, 29, developed a sex addiction in her early 20s after break-up
She traveled hundreds of miles to sleep with friends and strangers
But her life has turned around since meeting partner James Keates, 38
Now she is raising awareness because ‘sex addiction is a serious issue’
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She lost her job and many of her friends due to her struggles with addiction.
But Sami Walton is not under the power of drugs or alcohol, but rather a slave to her own lust.
The 29-year-old has a sex addiction that leaves her unable to keep her hands off partner of four years James Keates. Office worker Miss Walton leaves the 38-year-old exhausted by having sex more than 10 times a day on some occasions.
But she is keen to dispel the myths around the issue and make people realise it is a real problem and not something to laugh about.
Sami Walton, left, 29, has a sex addiction and sometimes has to have sex 10 times a day with partner James Keates, 38, right
Miss Walton, left and right with Mr Keates, developed the problem in her early 20s after a break-up
Miss Walton, of Ascot, Berkshire, told the Sunday People: ‘Most men think they would love a partner who needs sex so much, but none of my previous boyfriends could handle it.
‘I’m lucky to have James. Not only does he have the stamina to keep up with me, he’s really supportive and doesn’t judge me when I’m having a bad day.’
If Mr Keates is too tired to sustain her addiction she has a £1,500 collection of sex toys to turn to.
He told the People: ‘In the early days I felt like I’d won the lottery. But now I’m getting a bit older it can be exhausting and I know it gets Sami down. I just try my best to be understanding.’
Miss Walton said she has shunned medical treatment in the past because she did not feel doctors understood what she was going through.
She revealed she would travel hundreds of miles to sleep with strangers before meeting her partner
She revealed she would travel hundreds of miles to sleep with strangers before meeting her partner
The couple have been together for four years and Miss Walton said Mr Keates is her ‘lover and therapist’
Mr Keates added her addiction was ‘obvious’ from the start but that he ‘understands’ and reassures her
She developed the problem in her early 20s after a break-up with a long term partner, and ended up travelling all over the country for casual rendezvous with both men and women. It led to her failing to turn up to work and her life ‘spiralled out of control’, sleeping with regular ‘friends with benefits’ and complete strangers.
She added it led to ‘dangerous situations’ because she would go home with people she ‘knew nothing about’.
Miss Walton said a life-changing moment came in 2010 when she woke up hundreds of miles away from home and she realised she had a genuine problem and was not just ‘on the rebound’.
She soon lost her job and went to see her GP about the issue, but was only prescribed anti-anxiety medication, while the waiting list to see a counsellor was ‘too long’.
The 29-year-old, right, lost her financial job because she would often turn up late to work or not at all due to her meeting people for sex
The 29-year-old, right, lost her financial job because she would often turn up late to work or not at all due to her meeting people for sex
She added she does not undergo formal treatment for the condition because doctors ‘don’t understand it’
She added she does not undergo formal treatment for the condition because doctors ‘don’t understand it’
But six months later her life began to turn around after meeting Mr Keates through a mutual friend, and he has become a source of comfort and reassurance for her.
Mr Keates said it was ‘obvious’ his new partner was a sex addict straight away but that he told her they could talk about the issue and have always been open about it.
He added he is ‘quite adventurous’ and they once had sex more than 40 times over a Bank Holiday weekend.
Miss Walton describes her boyfriend as her ‘therapist and lover’ and said if she is ever feeling overwhelmed she calls him for support.
WHAT IS SEX ADDICTION AND HOW CAN IT BE TREATED?
Relationship counselling service Relate describes sex addiction as any sexual activity that feels out of control for the people participating.
This can involve sex with another person but also watching pornography, masturbation, visiting prostitutes or calling sex chat lines.
Addicts are unable to control their urges and actions and thus it causes problems in their relationships, finances and professional lives.
The addiction itself is causes by powerful chemicals released in the human body during sex that the addict craves.
Signs of sex addiction include increased irritability, tiredness, depression, anxiety, a reduced sex drive with a romantic partner and erectile difficulties.
Treatment is usually found in the form of counselling along with specialist centres that treat compulsive behaviour.
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